I’ve seen that line all around the internet today, and I have to say, it makes me upset. I’m sure by now you’ve seen the newest cover of Time Magazine and you’ve heard lots of commentary on their piece on Attachement Parenting, Bill & Martha Sears, and the cover photo of a mom breastfeeding her toddler.
I’ll be clear by saying that the parenting mechanisms that work for my family may not be what works best for yours, and I fully accept that. I don’t expect every family to fit the same mold. What I do expect is that we can respect each other.
I know many moms who make choices that are different from mine, and they do it with the intention of doing the best that they can for their child and what works for their family. Telling ANY mom that she isn’t ‘mom enough’ is an awful thing.
This is where the ‘Mommy Wars’ start and why they continue. Because we allow sensationalist headlines to take a hold of us. We allow the media to say that if you don’t breastfeed your three year old you’re not mom enough (for the record, both of my girls nursed beyond their 3rd birthday, but I won’t judge you if yours didn’t).
Listen moms, you ARE mom enough, and you don’t need Time Magazine or anyone else to tell you that. You need to trust your instincts, you need to research the things that are important to you, and you need to do the best you can with the information and resources available to you. For every single one of us that means different things, and that’s ok. You do what’s best for your family, and I’ll do what’s best for mine. Let’s stop judging one another for doing things differently and let’s make sure we don’t allow the ‘Mommy Wars’ to continue. Let’s support each other and help each other. THAT shows that you’re ‘mom enough.’